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The Mindset Behind "Needing" a Vacation

Summer's here and for many, that means it's time to take a break, relax and go on a dream vacation. After a long year working, studying or just getting caught up in daily routines, there is always that point we reach where we think "I need a vacation."

Have you ever wondered why vacation seems to be the only solution to this feeling? In this blog post, we'll talk about how "needing" a vacation can be a sign of underlying issues in terms of mindset, self-care, and boundaries.

Mindset: Finding Balance and Joy in Everyday Life

Mindset plays a huge part in determining whether you "need" a vacation. If you are finding that your mind is running non-stop, or if you are feeling emotionally drained, that could hinder your ability to enjoy day-to-day activities in the long term.

When you are in a healthy mindset, you will be able to enjoy life - even without going on a vacation. For example, if you've been wishing for a break from work, your boss, or even your colleagues, maybe it's time to reflect on your approach to your job.

Is it the work itself or the environment that's making you yearn for vacation? Once you figure out what's causing your discomfort, it's easier to make changes and find solutions to improve your day-to-day experience.

Activity: "Environment vs. Work" Reflection Exercise

  1. Find a quiet and comfortable place where you can reflect on your work experience.

  2. Take a piece of paper or open a new document on your computer.

  3. Divide the paper or document into two columns: "Environment" and "Work".

  4. Spend 10-15 minutes brainstorming and writing down aspects of your job that you enjoy and find fulfilling in the "Work" column.

  5. After that, spend another 10-15 minutes brainstorming and writing down aspects of your work environment that you enjoy and find fulfilling in the "Environment" column.

  6. Now, take a few moments to reflect on each column and ask yourself: "Which column contains more items that bring me joy and fulfillment?" and "Which column contains more items that cause me discomfort or stress?"

  7. Based on your reflection, identify one or two items from each column that you would like to change or improve in your day-to-day experience.

  8. Lastly, think about potential solutions that could help you make those changes or improvements. Write them down next to each item.

  9. Take action on the solutions you identified and make a plan to improve your work experience, so that you can enjoy your day-to-day life more and feel less stressed or overwhelmed.

Mindset Swaps for a Healthier Well-being

Our mindset plays a significant role in shaping our experiences and overall well-being. Sometimes, we may find ourselves stuck in negative or unhelpful mindsets that hinder our ability to thrive and enjoy life to the fullest.

In this activity, we will explore a series of mindset swaps specifically designed to address the common red flags associated with the statement "I need a vacation."

Burnout mindset: "I can't handle this anymore" to "I deserve rest and rejuvenation to recharge myself"

Escapist mindset: "I just want to escape from it all" to "I will focus on enjoying the present and finding joy in my daily life"

Overwhelmed mindset: "I can't keep up with everything" to "I will identify my top priorities and seek support when needed"

Lack of fulfillment mindset: "This isn't fulfilling or satisfying" to "I will explore what truly brings me joy and fulfillment, and make adjustments accordingly"

Exhaustion mindset: "I'm constantly tired and drained" to "I will prioritize rest, relaxation, and self-care to replenish my energy levels"

Routine fatigue mindset : "I'm stuck in a monotonous cycle" to "I will seek new experiences and explore different activities to add excitement to my life"

Lack of inspiration mindset: "I feel uninspired and unmotivated" to "I will actively seek inspiration through new environments, activities, and perspectives"

Stress-driven mindset:"I'm constantly under pressure and overwhelmed" to "I will incorporate stress-reducing practices, such as meditation or exercise, into my daily routine"

Taking a vacation can provide temporary relief, but addressing the underlying mindset and implementing positive changes in daily life can lead to sustainable well-being and a healthier mindset overall.

Activity: Mindset Swaps for a Healthier Well-being


  1. Take a moment to reflect on the mindset red flags listed above.

  2. Identify which mindset red flags resonate with you the most in relation to the statement "I need a vacation."

  3. Select one mindset red flag and its corresponding mindset swap from the list.

  4. Write down the selected mindset red flag and its mindset swap on a piece of paper or in a journal.

  5. Spend a few minutes contemplating how this mindset shift can positively impact your well-being. Visualize yourself embodying the mindset swap and experiencing the associated benefits.

  6. Think about specific actions or changes you can make to implement this new mindset in your daily life.

  7. Write down at least three actionable steps you can take to adopt the mindset swap.

  8. Commit to practicing and reinforcing this new mindset over the next week.

  9. Monitor your progress and reflect on how the mindset swap is influencing your overall well-being.

Example: "I can't handle this anymore" to "I deserve rest and rejuvenation to recharge myself"

Action Items:

  • Schedule regular breaks and moments of rest throughout the day to prioritize self-care.

  • Communicate openly with others about your need for rest and set healthy boundaries.

  • Engage in activities that promote relaxation and rejuvenation, such as taking walks, practicing mindfulness, or pursuing hobbies.

Remember, mindset shifts require practice and persistence. By actively engaging in these mindset swaps and incorporating them into your daily life, you can cultivate a healthier and more balanced well-being.

Nurturing Your Well-being: The Power of Self-Care

Self-care is an integral part of our overall well-being that should be taken seriously. Vacation, while beneficial, shouldn't be the only solution to our stress. Self-care practices, such as exercise, meditation, or a soothing bath can help to reduce stress and bring about feelings of calm and relaxation.

Creating a consistent self-care routine can also help you cope with stressors that life throws your way. Practicing self-care is a way to "prevent" needing a vacation in the first place.

Instead of reaching a point where you find yourself desperate for a break, you will have created a lifestyle that promotes peace and a healthy state of mind.

Activity: "Design Your Own Self-Care Routine" Exercise

Set aside 20-30 minutes for this activity, find a quiet and comfortable place where you can reflect and focus.

  1. Take out a pen and paper or open a new document on your computer.

  2. Make a list of activities that you enjoy doing and that make you feel relaxed or rejuvenated. This could include activities such as exercise, reading, meditation, taking a bath, journaling, or spending time outdoors. Be creative and think outside the box.

  3. Now, think about how often you would like to engage in these activities. Would you like to do them daily, weekly, or monthly? Write down a frequency next to each activity.

  4. Determine how long each activity takes, and schedule them into your daily or weekly routine accordingly. For example, if you enjoy yoga, you could schedule a 20-minute yoga practice every morning before work.

  5. Hold yourself accountable to your self-care routine. Treat it as an important commitment to yourself and prioritize it as much as you would any other important task or appointment.

  6. Finally, evaluate your self-care routine on a regular basis and adjust it as needed. If you find that a certain activity isn't bringing you the relaxation or rejuvenation you desire, replace it with something else.

  7. Remind yourself that practicing self-care is a way to "prevent" needing a vacation in the first place. By consistently engaging in activities that promote peace and a healthy state of mind, you'll be better equipped to cope with stressors that life throws your way.

Empowering Boundaries: Building Healthy Relationships and Work-Life Balance

Boundaries play a crucial role in how we interact with others and our work environments. Without proper boundaries, it's easy to become overburdened by the demands of others.

When we're at work, consistent tasks, long hours, or toxic personalities can all wear us down. The same goes for personal relationships, where we might feel like we're giving more than we're receiving with friends and family members.

Learning to set boundaries will help prevent feeling "boxed in" and lead to a sense of agency and control over your life. By clearly articulating what you will and won't accept from others, you'll find less friction in your relationships and less stress at work.

In the long run, not only will you be able to stand up for yourself, but you'll also find yourself less "needing" of a vacation.

Activity: "Setting Boundaries" Practice Exercise

  1. Find a quiet and comfortable place where you can reflect on your relationships, both personal and professional.

  2. Take a piece of paper or open a new document on your computer.

  3. Make two columns: "Will Accept" and "Won't Accept".

  4. Spend 10-15 minutes brainstorming and writing down behaviors or actions from others that you find acceptable or even desirable in the "Will Accept" column. Be specific and try to think of situations that come up regularly in your life.

  5. After that, spend another 10-15 minutes brainstorming and writing down behaviors or actions from others that you find unacceptable or intolerable in the "Won't Accept" column.

  6. Now, take a few moments to reflect on each column and ask yourself: "How can I communicate these boundaries to others in a clear and assertive way?"

  7. Based on your reflection, write down a few phrases or scripts you could use to communicate your boundaries effectively. For example: "I'm not comfortable with that", "Please don't speak to me like that", or "I need some space to focus on my work right now".

  8. Practice asserting your boundaries with a friend or colleague, using the phrases or scripts you identified in the previous step. Ask for their feedback and adjust your communication style as needed.

  9. Lastly, make a plan to implement your newly-articulated boundaries in your day-to-day life, and commit to standing up for yourself when needed. Remember, setting boundaries takes practice and patience, but the more you do it, the easier it will become, and the less "needing" of a vacation you'll feel.


While there's nothing wrong with going on vacation, it's important to remember that if we are "needing" a vacation, it may be a sign to address underlying issues with our mindset, self-care, and boundaries.

The good news is that by taking steps such as making self-care a priority, assessing our mindset, and setting boundaries can help us address these issues and help us alleviate feelings of stress and fatigue.

By taking care of ourselves each day, we can learn to appreciate and find joy in everyday moments, and not just when we're on vacation.

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I regularly share valuable insights, practical tips, and inspiration to support you on your journey towards personal growth and fulfillment. Together, let's create a mindset that empowers us to live our best lives.



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